Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you be doing differently today? What small action could you take? Use therapy to draw on your strengths and articulate what means most to you.
As your psychologist as I serve as your consultant as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being and quality of life. I look forward to meeting you. Let's get started.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My practice provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. In order for us to work well together, you'll need to feel understood. Orient toward a life in which you feel fulfilled, supported and purposeful.
Therapy is different things for different people. Some people are looking for a place to have a confidential conversation. Others are looking for information, tools or guidance. We all benefit from encouragement, acknowledgement and feedback. Counseling can help you speak to what's on your mind, face challenges and overcome difficulties.
Therapy That's a Fit for You
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy, best practices and lines of research to provide customized care. My style is positive and relationship-based. We'll gather information, share ideas and be curious about what helps you.
What works for one person is not necessarily going to work for the next. My treatment and self care recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with understanding from a range of sources including cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice.
Are you stuck? It's so frustrating to be in a rut. Time passes and there you are. Meanwhile, you may not be the only one feeling the strain. Are your loved ones concerned about you? Studies have been done on how long on average people wait before seeking help for emotional pain. It is much too long.
Take a different path. Gain knowledge. Face problems (with support) to reduce their impact. Come to recognize triggers, pause and respond differently. Take a different stance toward what is bothering you. The past does not have to determine the future.
It's natural to seek support during stressful times. It speaks to your resolve to navigate challenges and desire to overcome them. And, it suggests a healthy impulse not to do it alone. As people we are deeply social. We seem to find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own. Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective.
Find Your Happiness by Starting Small
Let's start small. What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? You may not be able to control outcomes as much as you would like. But, there are simple actions you can control. Well-being can grow from orienting toward people you love and pursuits that give you a sense of satisfaction. Cultivate small-scale happiness. Small changes often signal growth to come.
Reframe Challenges as Opportunities for Growth
We all want to live in tune with our strengths. We envision lives of purpose, connection and fulfillment. We want to be loved, respected and valued. But, things don't always work out as planned. Although common, unexpected struggles can be upsetting. Stressful times offer opportunities for learning and growth. Use counseling to reflect on your responses to challenges and to consider if they are serving you.
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact. Accepting what you can't change can liberate you from fighting battles which are not yours to fight. Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you.
Understand and Take Action (or Not)
Counseling includes efforts to gain understanding. We may talk about your life experiences, relationships, habits of thought or reactions to a setback. You may use therapy to address some tough issues in a supportive, private context.
We will likely discuss how your experiences, thoughts, emotions, physical reactions and behavior influence one another and your life. We'll take a look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently keep worry, sadness or fear going.
Action is important for growth. Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening relevant skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication and/or challenging negative beliefs.
Paradoxically, inaction can also be liberating. Therapy sometimes involves encouragement to do less. Grappling less with an issue can enable a person to take a different attitude toward it. For example, engaging less with anxious thoughts gives them less fuel, so they become weaker and less bothersome.
Set the Frame Through Lifestyle
Change takes its own time. But, lifestyle sets the frame for psychological health. Daily routines play a significant role in how happy people feel. Prioritize pursuits that enable you to act on your values and interests. Although habits can take time to change, especially if they've been around for a while, people can and often do change them. So can you.
Experience Enhanced Gratitude and Connection
Once you've restored your well-being, ongoing self-care is critical to maintaining it. You'll need to be aware of what actions each day help you sustain and build your emotional well-being. With renewed psychological health often comes a different awareness - a heightened sense of gratitude, a desire to help, a stronger sense of connection with others, a call to pursue meaning. May these be your guides.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to strengthen your emotional health and well being? Get outside. Move. Orient toward interesting or meaningful activities, things that inspire and uplift you. Spend time with people you care about. Help someone. Practice gratitude. Engage less with your phone, computer and other devices.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's time to feel better. Contact me to get started.