Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you do differently today? What small action would you take? Use therapy to help you overcome obstacles, manage stress, find relief from pain and progress toward the life you want.
As your psychologist I serve as your consultant and coach as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being, happiness and quality of life. I look forward to meeting you. Let's get started.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My practice provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. In order for us to work well together, you'll need to feel understood.
Therapy is different things for different people. Some people are looking for a place to have a confidential conversation. Others are looking for information, tools or guidance. Everyone benefits from encouragement, acknowledgement and feedback.
Gain Support and Knowledge
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy, best practices and lines of research to provide customized care. My style is positive and relationship-based. What works for one person is not necessarily going to work for the next. My treatment and self care recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with findings from cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice.
Are you stuck? It's so frustrating to be in a rut. Studies show that people often wait a surprisingly long time to seek help. Don't let that be the case for you. Face problems to reduce their impact. Gain knowledge. Recognize triggers. Pause and respond differently. Practice new ways of handling difficult thoughts and feelings. Unlock your mental constraints. The past does not have to determine the future.
Change Your Stance Toward Stress
It's natural to seek support during stressful times. It speaks to your resolve to navigate challenges and desire to overcome them. And, it suggests a healthy impulse not to do it alone. As people we are deeply social. We find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own. Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective.
Find Your Happiness by Starting Small
What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? How can you cultivate small-scale happiness? You may not be able to control outcomes as much as you would like. But, there are simple actions you can control. Small changes often signal growth to come. Each time you take action, it strengthens new pathways, making it easier next time.
We all want to live in tune with our strengths. We hope for lives of purpose, connection and fulfillment. We crave being loved, respected and valued. But, things don't always work out as planned. Unexpected struggles can be upsetting, even overwhelming. You may find yourself responding to difficulties in ways you know are not helpful. As awful as they feel, tough times present opportunities for learning and growth.
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact.
Awareness of what is going inside you can help you take care of yourself to better take care of your life. You can identify ways you get triggered or drained. Then, you can take simple, different actions in response.
Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you. Accepting what you can't change can liberate you from fighting battles which are not yours to fight.
Renew Your Energy
How you feel affects how you act and how you manage your life. Do you want to renew your reservoir of energy - to feel more powered by positive energy, instead of drained by worry, anxiety or low mood? It may be that you want to feel more like your “best self” – however you define that. It may be smiling or laughing more often. It may be knowing that what you do has meaning, or experiencing a greater sense of calm. Likely it has to do with feeling connected - whether it's to a special person, a group, family, friends or a greater purpose.
Understand and Take Action
Counseling includes efforts to gain understanding. We may talk about your life experiences, relationships, habits of thought or reactions to a setback. You may use therapy to address some tough questions in a supportive, private context.
We will likely talk about how your experiences, thoughts, emotions, physical reactions and behavior influence one another and your life. We'll take a look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently keep worry, sadness or fear going.
Action is important for growth. Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening relevant skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication and/or managing negative thoughts.
Inaction can also be liberating. Therapy sometimes involves encouragement to do less. For example, engaging less with anxious thoughts gives them less fuel. That way they become weaker, less bothersome. Through adopting a different mindset toward difficulties they can come to play a different, less dominant role in your life.
Benefit From a Psychologically Healthy Lifestyle
Change takes its own time. Meanwhile, lifestyle sets the frame for psychological health. Daily routines play a significant role in how happy people feel. Prioritize healthy pursuits that enable you to act on your values and interests. Although habits can take time to change, especially if they've been around for a while, people can and often do change them. So can you. New positive habits can become automatic, taking the place of previous ones that didn't serve you.
Enjoy a Sense of Gratitude and Connection
Let's look ahead. You've restored your well-being. Now you're using what you've learned to maintain it. Life still has its ups and downs. Not every day is wonderful. But, overall you're feeling significantly better.
You know what to watch for. You bounce back more quickly. You find yourself appreciating small things deeply. You experience a heightened sense of gratitude, a desire to help, a stronger sense of connection with others, greater openness, a call to pursue meaning. These are signs you are over the hump. I feel good seeing you in this place.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to boost your emotional health and well being? Go outside. Move. Drink and smoke less, or not at all. Put your phone down. Get away from your computer and TV. Take a break from checking your email. Orient your energy toward interesting or meaningful pursuits, things that inspire and uplift you, that give you a sense of purpose. What makes you feel awe? Do it, today. Reach out to a friend or loved one. Spend time with people you care about. Help someone or something. Think simple - what simple actions, activities or routines bring your satisfaction? Do them. Meditate and and/or do yoga. Look for beauty. Express your love. Practice gratitude.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's time to feel better. Contact me to get started.