Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you do differently today? Are there parts of your life that could use some fine-tuning? Use therapy to help you overcome obstacles, manage stress, cope with pain and progress toward the life you want.
As your psychologist I serve as your consultant and coach as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being, happiness and quality of life. I look forward to meeting you. Let's get started.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My practice provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. In order for us to work well together, you'll need to feel understood.
Therapy is different things for different people. Some people are looking for a place to have a confidential conversation. Others are looking for information, tools or guidance. You may want to give voice to hopes, figure out how to adapt to a change or just talk to someone. Everyone benefits from encouragement, acknowledgement and feedback.
Gain Support, Build Knowledge
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy, best practices and lines of research to provide customized care. My style is positive and relationship-based. What works for one person is not necessarily going to work for the next. My treatment and self care recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with findings from cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice.
Are you stuck? Studies show that people often wait a surprisingly long time to seek help. You can be different. Face problems to reduce their impact. Acknowledge and accept the challenges you face. Unlock your mental constraints. Recognize triggers. Pause and respond differently. Practice new ways of handling difficult thoughts and feelings. The past does not have to determine the future.
Change Your Stance Toward Stress
It's natural to seek support during stressful times. It speaks to your resolve to navigate challenges and desire to overcome them. And, it suggests a healthy impulse not to do it alone. As people we are deeply social. We find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own. Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective. You are not alone.
What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? Cultivate small-scale happiness. Small moments of satisfaction and appreciation feed and sustain well-being. You may not be able to control outcomes as much as you would like. But, there are simple actions you can control. Each time you take that small positive action, it strengthens new pathways, making it easier next time.
We want to live in tune with our strengths. We hope for lives of purpose, connection and fulfillment. We crave feelings of being loved and valued. But, things don't always work out as planned. Unexpected struggles can be upsetting, even overwhelming. You may find yourself responding to difficulties in ways you know are not helpful. As awful as they feel, tough times present opportunities for learning and growth. What can you take from this experience to strengthen yourself?
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact. Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you. Awareness of what is going inside you can help you take care of yourself to better take care of your life. Identify waysyou get triggered or drained. Then, take simple, different actions in response.
Understand and Take Action
Counseling includes efforts to gain understanding. We may talk about your life experiences, relationships, habits of thought or reactions to a setback. You may use therapy to address tough questions in a supportive, private context.
We will likely talk about how your experiences, thoughts, emotions, physical reactions and behavior influence one another and your life. We'll take a look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently keep worry, sadness or fear going. We'll consider if they stories you tell yourself about yourself are helpful.
Action is important for growth. Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening relevant skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication, assertiveness and/or managing negative thoughts.
Inaction can also be liberating. Therapy sometimes involves encouragement to do less. If you run anxious, it will likely serve to engage less your with anxious thoughts. The less you feed them, the weaker and less troublesome they become. As you develop a different mindset toward difficulties they can come to play a different, less dominant role in your life.
Set the Frame Through Lifestyle
Change takes its own time. Meanwhile, lifestyle sets the frame for psychological health. Daily routines play a role in how happy people feel. Prioritize healthy pursuits that enable you to act on your values and interests. Although habits can take time to change, especially if they've been around for a while, people can and often do change them. So can you. As you add positive habits, they often become automatic, taking the place of previous ones that fall away.
Enjoy Gratitude and Connection
Let's look ahead. You've restored your well-being. Now you're using what you've learned to maintain it. Life still has its ups and downs. Every day is not wonderful. Challenges still come your way. But, overall you're feeling significantly better.
You know what to watch for. You bounce back more quickly. You find yourself appreciating small things deeply. You experience a heightened sense of gratitude, a desire to help, a stronger sense of connection with others, greater openness, a call to pursue meaning. These are signs you are over the hump. I feel good seeing you in this place.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to boost your emotional health and well being? Proceed with intention. Be of service to others. Get outside. Move. Drink and smoke less or not at all. Put your phone down. Get away from your computer and TV. Stop checking your email.
Orient your energy toward interesting or meaningful pursuits, things that inspire and uplift you, that give you a sense of purpose. Meditate and and/or do yoga. Practice gratitude. What makes you feel awe? Do it. Reach out to someone you care about.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's your time to feel better. Contact me to get started.