Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you be doing differently today? What small action could you take? Use therapy to help you overcome obstacles, manage stress, find relief from pain and progress toward the life you want.
As your psychologist I serve as your consultant and coach as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being and quality of life. I look forward to meeting you. Let's get started.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My practice provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. In order for us to work well together, you'll need to feel understood.
Therapy is different things for different people. Some people are looking for a place to have a confidential conversation. Others are looking for information, tools or guidance. We all benefit from encouragement, acknowledgement and feedback. When we meet, we'll talk about what you hope to get from therapy.
Draw on Therapy Designed for You
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy, best practices and lines of research to provide customized care. My style is positive and relationship-based. We'll gather information, share ideas and be curious about what is helpful for you.
What works for one person is not necessarily going to work for the next. My treatment and self care recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with findings from a range of sources including cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice.
Are you stuck? It's so frustrating to be in a rut. Time passes and there you are. Meanwhile, you may not be the only one feeling the strain. Are your loved ones concerned about you? Studies have been done on how long on average people wait before seeking help for emotional pain. It is much too long.
Take a different path. Gain knowledge. Face problems (with support) to reduce their impact. Come to recognize triggers, pause and respond differently. Practice new ways of handling difficult thoughts and feelings. Take a different stance toward what is bothering you. The past does not have to determine the future.
It's natural to seek support during stressful times. It speaks to your resolve to navigate challenges and desire to overcome them. And, it suggests a healthy impulse not to do it alone. As people we are deeply social. We seem to find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own. Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective.
Find Your Happiness by Starting Small
Let's start small. What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? Cultivate small-scale happiness. You may not be able to control outcomes as much as you would like. But, there are simple actions you can control. Small changes often signal growth to come.
We all want to live in tune with our strengths. We envision lives of purpose, connection and fulfillment. We want to be loved, respected and valued. But, things don't always work out as planned. Although common, unexpected struggles can be upsetting, even overwhelming. You may find yourself responding to difficulties in ways you know are not helpful. Let's remember that as awful as they feel, stressful times present opportunities for learning and growth.
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact. Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you. Accepting what you can't change can liberate you from fighting battles which are not yours to fight.
Understand and Take Action
Counseling includes efforts to gain understanding. We may talk about your life experiences, relationships, habits of thought or reactions to a setback. You may use therapy to address some tough questions in a supportive, private context.
We will likely discuss how your experiences, thoughts, emotions, physical reactions and behavior influence one another and your life. We'll take a look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently keep worry, sadness or fear going. Many people have difficulty tolerating uncertainty. If that's true for you, we'll talk about how to reduce the bite that takes out of your life.
Action is important for growth. Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening relevant skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication and/or managing negative thoughts.
Inaction can also be liberating. Therapy sometimes involves encouragement to do less. For example, engaging less with anxious thoughts gives them less fuel. That way they become weaker and less bothersome. Adopting a different mindset toward difficulties can enable them to play a different, less dominant role in one's life.
Benefit From a Psychologically Healthy Lifestyle
Change takes its own time. But, lifestyle sets the frame for psychological health. Daily routines play a significant role in how happy people feel. Prioritize pursuits that enable you to act on your values and interests. Although habits can take time to change, especially if they've been around for a while, people can and often do change them. So can you.
Enjoy a Sense of Gratitude and Connection
Once you've restored your well-being, ongoing self-care is critical to maintaining it. Of course, life will still have its ups and downs. Not every day will be great. But, hopefully you'll feel significantly better. With renewed psychological health often comes a different awareness - a heightened sense of gratitude, a desire to help, a stronger sense of connection with others, greater openness, a call to pursue meaning. I'd love to see you in that place.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to boost your emotional health and well being? Get outside. Move. Drink and smoke less or not at all. Engage less with your phone, computer and other devices. Orient your energy toward interesting or meaningful pursuits, things that inspire and uplift you or give you a sense of purpose. Spend time with people you care about. Help someone. Practice gratitude.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's time to feel better. Contact me to get started.