Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you be doing differently today? What small action could you take? Use therapy to help you overcome obstacles, manage stress, find relief from pain, learn from experiences, and progress toward the life you want.
As your psychologist I serve as your consultant and coach as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being, happiness and quality of life. I look forward to meeting you. Let's get started.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My practice provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. In order for us to work well together, you'll need to feel understood.
Therapy is different things for different people. Some people are looking for a place to have a confidential conversation. Others are looking for information, tools or guidance. It may be that you are trying to understand how to deal with a loss, a current or a past difficulty. It may be time to break a pattern in your life that has not been serving you. You may want to build your faith that you can handle what comes your way.
We all benefit from encouragement, acknowledgement and feedback. When we meet, we'll talk about what you hope to gain from therapy. There are many different pathways to fulfillment of personal goals. We'll focus on yours. We will identify what is most important to you, prioritize it, and help you cultivate habits that reflect it.
Gain Support and Knowledge
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy, best practices and lines of research to provide customized care. My style is positive and relationship-based. We'll gather information, share ideas and be curious about your process of personal development.
What works for one person is not necessarily going to work for the next. My treatment and self care recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with findings from a range of sources including cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice. I love it when clients bring in books or show me links or videos that interest them.
Are you stuck? It's so frustrating to be in a rut. Time passes and there you are. Meanwhile, you may not be the only one feeling the strain. Are your loved ones concerned about you as well? Studies show that people often wait a surprisingly long time to seek help. Don't let that be the case for you. Why wait?
Take a different path. Unlock your mental constraints. Face problems (with support) to reduce their impact. Gain knowledge. Come to recognize triggers. Pause and respond differently. Practice new ways of handling difficult thoughts and feelings. The past does not have to determine the future.
Change Your Stance Toward Stress
It's natural to seek support during stressful times. It speaks to your resolve to navigate challenges and desire to overcome them. And, it suggests a healthy impulse not to do it alone. As people we are deeply social. We seem to find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own.
Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective. In therapy you can share your wins and celebrate small successes.
Find Your Happiness by Starting Small
What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? Let's start small. Cultivate small-scale happiness. You may not be able to control outcomes as much as you would like. But, there are simple actions you can control. Small changes often signal growth to come. Each time you take action strengthens new pathways and makes it easier next time.
We all want to live in tune with our strengths. We envision lives of purpose, connection and fulfillment. We want to be loved, respected and valued. But, things don't always work out as planned.
Although common, unexpected struggles can be upsetting, even overwhelming. You may find yourself responding to difficulties in ways you know are not helpful. As awful as they feel, tough times present opportunities for learning and growth.
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact. Starting therapy is a sign of awareness.
Awareness of what is going inside you can help you take care of yourself to better take care of your life. You can identify the various ways you get triggered or drained. Then, you can take simple, different actions in response.
Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you. Accepting what you can't change can liberate you from fighting battles which are not yours to fight.
Renew Your Energy
How you feel affects how you act and how you manage your life. Do you want to renew your reservoir of energy - to feel more powered by positive energy, instead of drained by worry, anxiety or low mood?
It may be that you want to feel more like your “best self” – however you define that. I've heard words used like happy, confident, peaceful, focused, excited, valued, in the zone. Maybe it’s feeling passionate and committed about what you are doing – knowing that what you do has meaning. It may be experiencing a greater sense of equanimity or calm. Likely it has to do with feeling connected - whether it's to the community, a special person, a group, family, friends or a greater purpose.
Understand and Take Action
Counseling includes efforts to gain understanding. We may talk about your life experiences, relationships, habits of thought or reactions to a setback. You may use therapy to address some tough questions in a supportive, private context.
We will likely discuss how your experiences, thoughts, emotions, physical reactions and behavior influence one another and your life. We'll take a look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently keep worry, sadness or fear going. Many people have difficulty tolerating uncertainty. If that's true for you, we'll talk about how to reduce the bite that takes out of your life.
Action is important for growth. Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening relevant skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication and/or managing negative thoughts.
Inaction can also be liberating. Therapy sometimes involves encouragement to do less. For example, engaging less with anxious thoughts gives them less fuel. That way they become weaker and less bothersome. Adopting a different mindset toward difficulties can cause them to play a different, less dominant role in your life.
Benefit From a Psychologically Healthy Lifestyle
Change takes its own time. Meanwhile, lifestyle sets the frame for psychological health. Daily routines play a significant role in how happy people feel. Prioritize healthy pursuits that enable you to act on your values and interests. Although habits can take time to change, especially if they've been around for a while, people can and often do change them. So can you. New positive habits can become automatic, taking the place of previous ones that didn't serve you.
Enjoy a Sense of Gratitude and Connection
Let's look ahead. You've restored your well-being. Now you're using what you've learned to maintain it. Life still has its ups and downs. Not every day is wonderful. But, overall you're feeling significantly better. You know what to watch for. You bounce back more quickly. You find yourself appreciating very small things deeply.
You experience a different awareness - a heightened sense of gratitude, a desire to help, a stronger sense of connection with others, greater openness, a call to pursue meaning. These are signs you are over the hump. I feel good seeing you in this place.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to boost your emotional health and well being? Get outside. Move. Drink and smoke less or not at all. Engage less with your phone, computer and other devices. Orient your energy toward interesting or meaningful pursuits, things that inspire and uplift you or give you a sense of purpose. Spend time with people you care about. Help someone. Practice gratitude.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's time to feel better. Contact me to get started.