Counseling to Enhance Women's Lives
If your mental health were your top priority, what would you do differently today? Use therapy to help you overcome obstacles, manage stress, strengthen relationships and progress toward personal goals. As your psychologist I serve as your consultant and coach as well as your therapist. We work together to protect, build and sustain your well being, happiness and life satisfaction.
Many people wait a surprisingly long time to seek help. You can be different. Therapy provides a place to acknowledge and accept your vulnerabilities. When you face problems you can reduce their impact. You’ll learn to recognize triggers. Take a fresh look at familiar responses. Practice healthier ways of handling thoughts and feelings. The past does not have to determine the future.
Tell Your Story
The counseling begins with telling your story. My office provides a private setting to talk about areas for acceptance, growth or change. Therapy is different things for different people. You may simple want to talk to someone about what’s on your mind, to sort through what’s going on in your life. You may want help with anxiety or depression. You may recognize your life is out of balance and want to correct that. You may be looking for information, tools or guidance. Everyone benefits from support and encouragement.
Access Individualized Professional Guidance
I use an integrative approach, drawing on various schools of therapy and best practices to provide individualized care. My recommendations reflect a focus on what works for you. They link you with findings from cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental psychology, positive psychology and mindfulness practice. I'll be interested in what you are already doing to support your well-being - what practices, apps, websites, books or articles you find helpful.
Shift Your Stance
It's healthy to seek support during stressful times. As people we are deeply social. We find our way out of difficulties better with others than on our own. Talking to loved ones can be helpful. But, therapy offers something different - a private setting, time dedicated to you and access to a professional perspective. Emotional pain can be one of the most powerful motivators to make positive changes.
Be Aware and Accept
Awareness, acceptance and change are linked. Awareness of thoughts, emotions and behavior sets the stage for reducing their negative impact. Acceptance can help you figure out better ways of managing what's bothering you. Awareness of what is going inside you can help you take care of yourself to better take care of your life. Both awareness and acceptance play a role in loosening up stuck emotions.
Cultivate small-scale happiness. What in your life would you like to make a little bit better? Little moments of satisfaction and appreciation feed and sustain well-being. Thinking or acting just a touch differently can be surprisingly powerful. Each simple action strengthens new pathways, making it easier next time. Change takes its own time. Meanwhile, you build new, healthier habits by repeating them again and again. They'll take the place of old ones that fall aside.
We’ll consider your experiences, thoughts, feelings, actions, lifestyle and relationships as all are relevant to emotional health. We'll look at whether there are things you are doing that inadvertently maintain worry, sadness or fear. Reducing avoidance of things your fear can free your energy for positive aspects of your life.
Let Actions Lead
Therapy includes articulating personal goals and taking steps toward them. It may involve practicing and strengthening skills, for example in the areas of stress management, emotion regulation, health behavior, self care, communication, assertiveness and/or managing negative feelings.
Inaction can also be liberating. Counseling sometimes involves encouragement to do less. Rather than adding to your personal to do list, it may serve you to do less, not more - to let go of responses, actions or thought patterns that don’t serve you.
If you run anxious, you may have noticed you have a tendency toward "doing-ness" and busy brain, which leads to overthinking and overworking. In this case, it will likely serve you to engage less your with anxious thoughts. The less you feed them, the weaker and less troublesome they become.
Enjoy Gratitude and Connection
Let's look ahead. Your mood is better. Of course, life still has its ups and downs. Tough things still come your way, as they do for everyone. But, your response to them feels different. You know what to watch for. You bounce back more quickly. You find yourself appreciating small things deeply. You experience a greater feeling of gratitude, of connection to people you love, an orientation toward meaning.
Start Feeling Better Today
What can you do today to boost your mental health and life satisfaction? Take time away from your screens. Move. Go outside. Meditate and/or do yoga. Drink and smoke less or not at all. Practice gratitude. Reach out to someone you care about. Be of service. What makes you feel awe? Do it. Orient your energy toward interesting or meaningful pursuits, things that inspire and uplift you, that give you a sense of purpose. Get help.
Ready to Move Forward?
It's your time to feel better. Contact me to get started.